When life has been heavy, the idea of moving forward can feel overwhelming. This article explores how to begin again without pressure—by letting capacity lead, choosing gentle steps, and allowing progress to unfold at a pace that supports stability, trust, and long-term wellbeing.
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When life feels uncertain, goals can feel heavy rather than helpful. This article explores why anchors—small, steady supports—often stabilise us better during difficult seasons, and how they create the conditions for clarity, motivation, and progress to return naturally, without pressure or force.
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After life changes, many people feel pressure to get back to normal—but normal often no longer fits. This article explores why that expectation can keep you stuck, how life reshapes us through difficult seasons, and what helps instead when you need a steadier, more sustainable way forward.
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When life gets hard, motivation often disappears—and that’s not a personal failure. This article explores why stress and emotional upheaval affect motivation, why pushing harder rarely helps, and what supports motivation returning naturally once stability and safety come first.
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When life knocks you off balance, motivation often disappears and even simple decisions feel heavy. This article explores why that’s a normal response to stress and upheaval, and how finding stability first—before goals or momentum—helps you begin again in a steadier, more sustainable way.
When Life Knocks You Off Balance: How We Begin Again Read More »
Curious about how AI might support your personal growth? This article explores how tools like ChatGPT can be used for self-reflection, gentle coaching, and emotional healing. Plus, download your free AI Prompt Pack filled with powerful questions to help you reflect, reframe, and rise — one prompt at a time.
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So many women find themselves caught in the role of “fixer.” Whether it’s a partner battling addiction, a child making reckless choices, a sibling who’s chronically broke, or a friend whose relationships are always in tatters — we pour our energy, time, and even money into trying to solve their problems.
Why Trying to Fix Your Loved One is Exhausting You — and What To Do Instead Read More »
The Think, Feel, Act Cycle, also known as the self-coaching model developed by Brooke Castillo, consists of five key components: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. It emphasizes that our thoughts, not external circumstances, determine our experiences. By becoming aware of and changing our thoughts, we can transform our emotions, behaviors, and outcomes, leading to a more positive life.
The Think, Feel, Act Cycle – A Deep Dive on Thoughts Read More »
OK. So yesterday I ran face-first into an ugly truth about myself. Truthfully, I was actually guided to the realisation by someone close to me and I thank them for it. I hope. Well. Yes. I thank them for pointing out a huge area of potential growth for me but I am a bit annoyed that it may give them an (undeserved) opportunity to feel smug and righteous. Defensive? Who me?
Help! The Internet says that I’m a controlling woman. Read More »
A tragedy is something that hopefully only occurs rarely or not at all in our lives or the lives of our loved ones. However, there are times when tragedy strikes close to home and we need to be there to support our loved ones. With so little experience at dealing with tragedy, thank goodness, there is little wonder that we may not know what to do or say to help when faced with it.
How to help people who have experienced tragedy Read More »
As the new year ticked over I was delivered a report detailing different statistics about visitors to my website over the past 12 months. One of the most surprising metrics I read was ….
Are Men Happier Than Women? Read More »
Loving an addict in any capacity can be one of the loneliest places in the world.
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Many of us get hung up on our circumstances. We blame them for our unhappiness or the reason why we are not at a point in our life where we would prefer to be. We say things like, it is because of my upbringing, or, my parents didn’t raise me right, or, it’s my genetics. We may blame our job, or lack of, our boss, our peer group, any number of things. But …
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There’s an old saying, ‘Falling in love is easy, staying in love, that’s the real work.’ From a young age, we are conditioned with an ideal image of love and all that it entails.
Mindfulness, or being mindful can help us to create and maintain strong relationships with our loved ones.
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Helen Keller’s whole life is an inspiration to us all. This woman with so much going against her achieved so much. Much more in fact than the majority of ‘normal’ able-bodied people. She often spoke of how much she loved life and how grateful she was for her abilities. She firmly believed that helping others was man’s purpose in life and that service to others was the secret to lasting happiness.
As we’ve learned from the last post about The Think, Feel, Act Cycle, all situations or circumstances are totally neutral until we start to think about them and create judgements about them. If something about a circumstance brings up fear in us that will often be more about us than the actual circumstance.
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The Think, Feel, Act Cycle is a framework that we can use to understand how and why we feel the way we do. And, it’s also a tool that we can use to change the way we think and act and be happier.
The Think-Feel-Act Cycle: How to Coach Yourself to Be Happier Read More »
Depression is when you’re feeling really down and that everything feels totally hopeless.
The good news is that depression can be overcome.
Natural ways to fight back when depression steals your happiness Read More »
I learned something fascinating this week. A fact that was both fascinating and empowering and also left me with a sense of relief. Negativity is not our fault. Our brains are wired to see the worst in any situation and prepare us to fight or flee. But we can train our brains to be positive instead.
Negativity Is Not Your Fault. Read More »
Yes, I believe you can. But, and there are quite a few buts, you can’t outright lie to your subconscious.
Can you change your life with positive affirmations? Read More »
