What is life coaching?
A Life Coach gives people confidence and the ability to move forward in a positive manner in the areas of their life where they crave change.
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Happiness is a decision
Happiness is a decision. Those were the powerful words given to me one night long ago while I was in the midst of my own despair. That was 26 years ago. The words just came into my head and I have been both railing against them and evangelising them ever since.
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The Think, Feel, Act Cycle – A Deep Dive on Thoughts
The Think, Feel, Act Cycle, also known as the self-coaching model developed by Brooke Castillo, consists of five key components: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. It emphasizes that our thoughts, not external circumstances, determine our experiences. By becoming aware of and changing our thoughts, we can transform our emotions, behaviors, and outcomes, leading to a more positive life.
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Presence
We spend so much of our time wanting to be somewhere else and absent from where we are right now. So many of our thoughts are either in the past, mulling over what has happened, regretting or trying to re-write the past. Or, our thoughts are focused on the future worrying about stuff still to happen and meeting our troubles halfway. We are missing out on the gift of the present.
Help! The Internet says that I’m a controlling woman.
OK. So yesterday I ran face-first into an ugly truth about myself. Truthfully, I was actually guided to the realisation by someone close to me and I thank them for it. I hope. Well. Yes. I thank them for pointing out a huge area of potential growth for me but I am a bit annoyed that it may give them an (undeserved) opportunity to feel smug and righteous. Defensive? Who me?
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How to help people who have experienced tragedy
A tragedy is something that hopefully only occurs rarely or not at all in our lives or the lives of our loved ones. However, there are times when tragedy strikes close to home and we need to be there to support our loved ones. With so little experience at dealing with tragedy, thank goodness, there is little wonder that we may not know what to do or say to help when faced with it.
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Are Men Happier Than Women?
As the new year ticked over I was delivered a report detailing different statistics about visitors to my website over the past 12 months. One of the most surprising metrics I read was ….
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The K.I.S.S. Method for Goal Setting
As we enter a new calendar year many of us take the opportunity to review the past year and set some goals for the year ahead. The internet and social media are filled with offers of free and paid goal setting systems and courses and links to the newest planner or journaling method to assure success in keeping our new year’s resolutions this time even though we may have failed in the past.
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My 20 for 2020
Yesterday I finally completed writing my 20 for 2020. This is a list of things I want to do in
My ‘Word’ for 2020
As I sat down to write this I was thinking about what my word for 2020 was going to be,
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Chasing Heaven
There was once a beautiful and slightly righteous angel living in Heaven. He was very gifted and amazing in just about every way but he struggled a bit with compassion and empathy. He simply couldn’t understand why some humans found it so hard to do the right thing and follow the rules.
When Someone You Love Has an Addiction
Loving an addict in any capacity can be one of the loneliest places in the world.
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The Think, Feel, Act Cycle – A Deep Dive on Circumstances
Many of us get hung up on our circumstances. We blame them for our unhappiness or the reason why we are not at a point in our life where we would prefer to be. We say things like, it is because of my upbringing, or, my parents didn’t raise me right, or, it’s my genetics. We may blame our job, or lack of, our boss, our peer group, any number of things. But …
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How Mindfulness Can Help Our Relationships
There’s an old saying, ‘Falling in love is easy, staying in love, that’s the real work.’ From a young age, we are conditioned with an ideal image of love and all that it entails.
Mindfulness, or being mindful can help us to create and maintain strong relationships with our loved ones.
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Mindfulness
Mindfulness is described as maintaining a moment by moment awareness of our thoughts and feelings, our physical sensations and the environment around us. So often we are caught up in thoughts of things that have happened in the past or things we are planning or have yet to do, that we do not give our attention to what is happening right now in the present moment.
Life feels busier the older I get
I’m sure that I’m much busier today than I ever was but that doesn’t seem logical.
Is it all in the mind? Is it just my perspective from an older mind? Have I slowed down that much that I just feel busier these days?
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A letter from your future self
Imagine checking your mail and amongst the usual bills and advertising material finding a letter addressed to you written in very familiar handwriting, your own. But you have no recollection of ever addressing this particular envelope.
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What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.
There is so much promise in this statement. It is so inspirational that not only can your goals be achieved, but in getting there, you’ll become a better person. And on reading it we know it’s true.
Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye. Helen Keller
Helen Keller’s whole life is an inspiration to us all. This woman with so much going against her achieved so much. Much more in fact than the majority of ‘normal’ able-bodied people. She often spoke of how much she loved life and how grateful she was for her abilities. She firmly believed that helping others was man’s purpose in life and that service to others was the secret to lasting happiness.
There is nothing to fear except fear itself
As we’ve learned from the last post about The Think, Feel, Act Cycle, all situations or circumstances are totally neutral until we start to think about them and create judgements about them. If something about a circumstance brings up fear in us that will often be more about us than the actual circumstance.
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The Think, Feel, Act Cycle and how we can use it to be happier
The Think, Feel, Act Cycle is a framework that we can use to understand how and why we feel the way we do. And, it’s also a tool that we can use to change the way we think and act and be happier.
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