Megan Ruffino

Megan is a child of the 1960s. She is an Aussie New Zealander, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a mother, a grandmother, a worker, a maker, a blogger, a traveller and a life and personal success coach. I wonder what's next?

The Think, Feel, Act Cycle – A Deep Dive on Thoughts

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The Think, Feel, Act Cycle, also known as the self-coaching model developed by Brooke Castillo, consists of five key components: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. It emphasizes that our thoughts, not external circumstances, determine our experiences. By becoming aware of and changing our thoughts, we can transform our emotions, behaviors, and outcomes, leading to a more positive life.

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Presence

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We spend so much of our time wanting to be somewhere else and absent from where we are right now. So many of our thoughts are either in the past, mulling over what has happened, regretting or trying to re-write the past. Or, our thoughts are focused on the future worrying about stuff still to happen and meeting our troubles halfway. We are missing out on the gift of the present.

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Help! The Internet says that I’m a controlling woman.

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OK. So yesterday I ran face-first into an ugly truth about myself. Truthfully, I was actually guided to the realisation by someone close to me and I thank them for it. I hope. Well. Yes. I thank them for pointing out a huge area of potential growth for me but I am a bit annoyed that it may give them an (undeserved) opportunity to feel smug and righteous. Defensive? Who me?

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How to help people who have experienced tragedy

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A tragedy is something that hopefully only occurs rarely or not at all in our lives or the lives of our loved ones. However, there are times when tragedy strikes close to home and we need to be there to support our loved ones. With so little experience at dealing with tragedy, thank goodness, there is little wonder that we may not know what to do or say to help when faced with it.

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The K.I.S.S. Method for Goal Setting

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As we enter a new calendar year many of us take the opportunity to review the past year and set some goals for the year ahead. The internet and social media are filled with offers of free and paid goal setting systems and courses and links to the newest planner or journaling method to assure success in keeping our new year’s resolutions this time even though we may have failed in the past.

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The Think, Feel, Act Cycle – A Deep Dive on Circumstances

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Many of us get hung up on our circumstances. We blame them for our unhappiness or the reason why we are not at a point in our life where we would prefer to be. We say things like, it is because of my upbringing, or, my parents didn’t raise me right, or, it’s my genetics. We may blame our job, or lack of, our boss, our peer group, any number of things. But …

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How Mindfulness Can Help Our Relationships

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There’s an old saying, ‘Falling in love is easy, staying in love, that’s the real work.’ From a young age, we are conditioned with an ideal image of love and all that it entails.
Mindfulness, or being mindful can help us to create and maintain strong relationships with our loved ones.

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Mindfulness

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Mindfulness is described as maintaining a moment by moment awareness of our thoughts and feelings, our physical sensations and the environment around us. So often we are caught up in thoughts of things that have happened in the past or things we are planning or have yet to do, that we do not give our attention to what is happening right now in the present moment.

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What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.

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There is so much promise in this statement. It is so inspirational that not only can your goals be achieved, but in getting there, you’ll become a better person. And on reading it we know it’s true.

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Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye. Helen Keller

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Helen Keller’s whole life is an inspiration to us all. This woman with so much going against her achieved so much. Much more in fact than the majority of ‘normal’ able-bodied people. She often spoke of how much she loved life and how grateful she was for her abilities. She firmly believed that helping others was man’s purpose in life and that service to others was the secret to lasting happiness.

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There is nothing to fear except fear itself

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As we’ve learned from the last post about The Think, Feel, Act Cycle, all situations or circumstances are totally neutral until we start to think about them and create judgements about them. If something about a circumstance brings up fear in us that will often be more about us than the actual circumstance.

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