Many of us get hung up on our circumstances. We blame them for our unhappiness or the reason why we are not at a point in our life where we would prefer to be. We say things like, it is because of my upbringing, or, my parents didn’t raise me right, or, it’s my genetics. We may blame our job, or lack of, our boss, our peer group, any number of things. But …
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There’s an old saying, ‘Falling in love is easy, staying in love, that’s the real work.’ From a young age, we are conditioned with an ideal image of love and all that it entails.
Mindfulness, or being mindful can help us to create and maintain strong relationships with our loved ones.
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Mindfulness is described as maintaining a moment by moment awareness of our thoughts and feelings, our physical sensations and the environment around us. So often we are caught up in thoughts of things that have happened in the past or things we are planning or have yet to do, that we do not give our attention to what is happening right now in the present moment.
I’m sure that I’m much busier today than I ever was but that doesn’t seem logical.
Is it all in the mind? Is it just my perspective from an older mind? Have I slowed down that much that I just feel busier these days?
Life feels busier the older I get Read More »
Imagine checking your mail and amongst the usual bills and advertising material finding a letter addressed to you written in very familiar handwriting, your own. But you have no recollection of ever addressing this particular envelope.
A letter from your future self Read More »
There is so much promise in this statement. It is so inspirational that not only can your goals be achieved, but in getting there, you’ll become a better person. And on reading it we know it’s true.
Helen Keller’s whole life is an inspiration to us all. This woman with so much going against her achieved so much. Much more in fact than the majority of ‘normal’ able-bodied people. She often spoke of how much she loved life and how grateful she was for her abilities. She firmly believed that helping others was man’s purpose in life and that service to others was the secret to lasting happiness.
As we’ve learned from the last post about The Think, Feel, Act Cycle, all situations or circumstances are totally neutral until we start to think about them and create judgements about them. If something about a circumstance brings up fear in us that will often be more about us than the actual circumstance.
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The Think, Feel, Act Cycle is a framework that we can use to understand how and why we feel the way we do. And, it’s also a tool that we can use to change the way we think and act and be happier.
The Think-Feel-Act Cycle: How to Coach Yourself to Be Happier Read More »
Depression is when you’re feeling really down and that everything feels totally hopeless.
The good news is that depression can be overcome.
Natural ways to fight back when depression steals your happiness Read More »
I learned something fascinating this week. A fact that was both fascinating and empowering and also left me with a sense of relief. Negativity is not our fault. Our brains are wired to see the worst in any situation and prepare us to fight or flee. But we can train our brains to be positive instead.
Negativity Is Not Your Fault. Read More »
Yes, I believe you can. But, and there are quite a few buts, you can’t outright lie to your subconscious.
Can you change your life with positive affirmations? Read More »
12 weeks ago I sat down and wrote out my goals of what I wanted to have achieved by the end of June this year. Yesterday I sat down and reviewed those goals – sadly, I hadn’t achieved a single one.
Setting and reviewing my goals. Read More »
Happiness is a decision.
This statement has been whirling around my head for months now. When I first read it I thought hell yeah! I read some great articles and quotes on the website and believed that this statement was bang on.
Then I started thinking about this on many levels. And then I thought can you be not very happy but be happy to be?
Can you be not very happy but be happy to be? Read More »
There is now definitive science that supports the idea that reading and saying positive statements, or affirmations, can help us to be happier.
The Science of Positive Affirmations. Read More »
It sounds so simple. If it were just that simple then why isn’t everyone happy? All of the time?
Simple, but not easy.
We can change our inner voice from being judgemental and grumpy us to being open and positive. It just takes practice and time and, yes, a bit of self-discipline.
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Happiness is the evaluation that your goals are being satisfied. This is interesting. It accounts for why happiness is defined differently for each person, as we all have different goals and aspirations. It also suggests that it is linked to a person’s expectations. And this is where we can truly make a difference and influence our own happiness.
How do we define happiness? Read More »
A Google search, ‘what is happiness?’ brings up results that show that the answer to this question has stretched the brains of many over time and still defines a single definition.
What is happiness? Read More »
Starting a daily gratitude practice can change your life. Science has shown that changing the way you perceive the world around you will actually change your experience of life.
Three different ways to start a daily gratitude practice – and how it helps. Read More »
I have always found that taking some sort of positive step, even the tiniest one, towards the problem can help lower my anxiety level. Doing something, even if it is just writing down a list of possible actions, gives me comfort in that I am actually doing something to solve the problem or prevent it from happening.
Do something positive instead of worrying. Action is the antidote for anxiety. Read More »
